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PWDe!

By: Kie Anna Cruz | December 10, 2022

The Filipino word “puwede/p’wede” indicates possibility. Like this term, we must always look for possibilities instead of negativities in this world. Our primary role as humans is to give ourselves a chance to form an inclusive community, today and tomorrow.

One way to start is to be kinder, especially when interacting with people who have disabilities. They constitute the nation’s largest minority group. It is essential that we see them for who they are and not what disability they have. It boils down to having a sense of compassionate awareness and proper decorum when interacting with them.

Here are five ways can show kindness to people with disabilities:

1. KINDLY put people first.

A person’s disability is not their only identity. With this, we must think about what we should call them. It is recommended that we use the “person-first language.” The best example is using “person with a disability” instead of “disabled person.” This way, we show that the person, not the disability, comes first.

However, there is not always a consistent use of language among the various sectors of the disabled community. Not all “disability identity language” is used. For example, “anemic person” is probably not offensive, although the disability is mentioned first.

Puzzled? Generally speaking, people with disabilities do not mind being asked for advice or preferences. But, overall, use the appropriate terms with care.

2. KINDLY skip the label, just this time…

Labels can prevent misunderstandings. However, there are times when labels are used to categorize positive or harmful praise, which can overemphasize a person’s characteristics. For PWDs, their disabilities can become the primary factor. Some individuals dislike being pitied or portrayed as victims due to their disabilities.

On the other hand, they should not be constantly praised for living an everyday life by using statements such as: “You’re so courageous for trying despite your disability.” Individuals with disabilities have equal standing in society.

3. KINDLY make eye contact. Never avoid someone with a disability.

People who are concerned that they might accidentally be disrespectful to someone with disability will sometimes ignore that person entirely. PWDs are human beings whose existence merits recognition. Ignoring someone is never the best option, as it would make anyone feel disrespected.

In terms of the height difference between those in wheelchairs and those with able-bodied bodies, improper posture can generate an unspoken sense of superiority and inferiority. Therefore, one must sit or stand at eye level with the person with disability, when appropriate, to give due respect and to ensure safety.

Finding a table is an excellent option, as it can conceal visible differences, such as a wheelchair. Kneeling may make a person in a wheelchair feel like a child, so sitting on a chair (with or without a table) is preferable.

4. KINDLY ask before assisting.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Let me assist you!”? Kindness motivates assertive helpers who rush to assist without being asked. The potential helper must be aware that the assumption of need is somewhat insensitive. People with disabilities are highly independent; many have adapted to their disability and find it advantageous to perform tasks by themselves.

If you wish to lend a helping hand, inquire beforehand, such as “May I assist you?” and do not take offense if they reject the offer.

5. KINDLY be an ally.

Inclusion is the prime illustration of kindness. Speak up when you hear a discriminatory remark directed towards people with disabilities. Advocate for accessible schools, workplaces, and public spaces. Invite those with impairments into your life, and enter theirs with courtesy.

Kindness is a grace (to yourself and others). No person, even those with impairments, is flawless. Because everyone makes mistakes, we all stand equal. We may all practice kindness toward ourselves and others in response to adversity. This includes politely educating ourselves and others about diversity and inclusion, considering before speaking, and compassionately embracing everyone. In short — extending love and acceptance to all our brothers and sisters.

By the time you have finished reading this, will kindness start in your heart? Each PWD has circumstances that do not determine how far they can go but merely where they can start. Hence, whatever they do, it will always be p’wedeng p’wede!